Leticia R. Francis Says Stop Waiting to Be Her, Start Living as Her Now!

Let me be blunt…

The future version of you is not going to magically appear one morning while you’re still living the same damn life, tolerating the same damn nonsense, and telling yourself “one day”.

“One day” is the most dangerous lie survival mode will ever sell you.
It’s the lie that says you’ll start living when things calm down.
When you make more money.
When you lose weight.
When you finally “feel ready”.

Newsflash: you’re never going to feel ready.
Read that again.

Survival mode will always give you another reason to wait. It will whisper:

“You need to fix yourself first.”
“You have to heal a little more.”
“You can’t show up like her until you’re perfect.”

Bullsh*t.

That version of you you’re fantasising about—the one who speaks her mind, wears what she wants, charges her worth, and stops settling—doesn’t appear after perfection. She appears after the decision.

And right now? You’re deciding to delay your own becoming.

Let me make it plain:
If you keep living as the woman you’ve outgrown, you will keep getting the life you’ve outgrown.
Period.

You cannot step into a life of ease while still clinging to the habits, relationships, and excuses of your survival era.
You cannot embody confidence while still negotiating your worth.
You cannot create freedom while still operating from fear.

And yet so many women are trying to do exactly that—asking for a new life while refusing to let go of the old one.

Who is your future self?
I want you to close your eyes and see her.
Not the Instagram version of her—the real her.

How does she move?
What does she say no to without guilt?
What does she allow herself to receive without shame?
Who does she keep close?
What kind of peace does she refuse to compromise?

Now here’s the gut punch:
Every single thing she does… you could start doing today.
Not next month. Not next year. Today.

Embodying your future self means living her decisions before you “feel ready”.
It means:

Charging your worth before you “think you’re worth it”.
Wearing the damn outfit before you lose the weight.
Resting in the middle of chaos because you’ve decided exhaustion is no longer your identity.
Walking away from what drains you without overexplaining.

This is not about faking it until you make it.
This is about being it until you become it.

The lie survival mode tells you is that your healing is somewhere in the future.
That if you just:

Push a little harder,
Earn a little more,
Prove yourself one more time,
Then you’ll finally be “worthy” of ease.

No.
You are worthy now.
You can live as her now.
But you won’t if you keep waiting for perfect conditions—because perfect conditions don’t exist.

Here’s the cost of waiting:
Every time you delay living as your future self, you reinforce the belief that she’s not possible.
Every time you shrink back into old patterns, you teach your nervous system that the old life is “safer” than the one you want.
Every time you postpone, you choose comfort over growth.

And then you wonder why nothing changes.

Let’s call it out: living as her is uncomfortable as hell at first.
Because your current identity will fight you for its life.
It will try to keep you in familiar patterns.
It will tell you:

“People will think you’ve changed.” (Good. You’re supposed to.)
“What if you fail?” (You already are, by not trying.)
“It’s too risky.” (So is staying the same.)

This is where most women tap out.
They confuse discomfort with danger.
They go back to the identity they know because it’s easier than becoming the woman they crave to be.

But here’s the thing about embodiment:
The more you practise living as her, the more natural it becomes.
You start saying no without guilt.
You start asking for more without apologising.
You stop explaining yourself to people committed to misunderstanding you.

And one day you wake up and realise: you ARE her.

Not because something magical happened.
But because you practised.
Every damn day.
Even when it was awkward.
Even when you were scared.
Even when you doubted yourself.

So, how do you start?
Here’s my no-fluff blueprint:

Decide who she is.
Get crystal clear. Not vague “better me” rubbish—actual details. How does she spend her mornings? How does she handle conflict? How does she treat her body?
Audit your current life.
Look at what you’re tolerating that she never would—relationships, routines, boundaries, work—nothing is off the table.
Close the gap daily.
Every day, do one thing as her. Just one. The compound effect will change everything.
Speak her language.
Change your self-talk. She doesn’t say “I can’t” or “I’m not ready”. She says “I’m learning” and “I’m choosing”.
Stop asking for permission.
She doesn’t wait for a sign. She is the sign.

Let me warn you:
When you start living as her, some people will fall away.
Not everyone will clap for this version of you.
Some will call you “different” like it’s an insult.
Some will test your new boundaries just to see if they can get the old you back.

Let them go.
The people who are meant for her will find her.
The ones who aren’t will remove themselves.
And you will finally be surrounded by relationships that match your new energy.

This is your permission slip.
Not to wait.
Not to prepare forever.
Not to keep polishing the cage you’ve been living in.

This is your permission slip to walk out now.
To live as her now.
To refuse to spend another year telling yourself “one day”.

Because “one day” is not coming.
You are.

Stop waiting. Start being.
The life you want isn’t in the future.
It’s in the choices you make today.
So choose like the woman you say you want to be.

And watch how quickly she shows up