Matchmaking is deeply personal to me—not just a career, but a calling that came from heartbreak. When my relationship ended, it cracked me open. In that space of vulnerability, I found purpose. I realised that helping people find love wasn't only about connection—it was about restoring faith, healing, and self-worth. My own experiences gave me the empathy to walk beside my clients as they rewrite their stories.
Starting my business, ItsAMatchMaking.com as a single mum came with its own set of challenges. Time was the biggest one. I didn’t have the option to wait until life was more stable or until the children were older. I had to build while mothering. That meant learning how to be both relentless and flexible, holding ambition in one hand and responsibility in the other.
Of course, there were moments I doubted myself. Days when I felt like I was stretched too thin and questioned whether I could do it all. What helped me through were quiet affirmations, my faith, and knowing that my children were watching. They deserved to see a woman who didn’t settle. A woman who got back up—even with shaky hands.
In the beginning, I measured success by milestones. Now, success means making choices that honour my values, protect my peace, and support my family. It’s not just about growth anymore—it’s about alignment and grace.
Running a matchmaking platform as CEO means wearing many hats. My days are filled with strategy, client calls, team meetings, and reviews. I start early with wellness rituals to ground myself. Evenings are for my children, though I often find myself replying to clients who need emotional support after hours—because love doesn’t keep office hours.
As a Black woman in business, I’ve faced barriers—most of them silent, hard to name, but deeply felt. I’ve had to assert my worth in spaces where I was underestimated or overlooked. I learned not to shrink, to speak plainly, and to let my work do the talking. If I’m in the room, I’ve earned my place.
Empathy is my superpower in this work—but I’ve had to learn the balance. I hold space for my clients, but I also hold structure in my business. Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re foundations. With the right systems, care and commerce can coexist.
For any woman starting again after divorce or major change, my advice is: start now. Don’t wait to be ready. Don’t wait for fear to pass. You don’t need perfection—you need momentum. Your life shift isn’t a step back—it’s the soil where your next chapter can grow.
One myth I always want to dispel is that matchmaking is only for the desperate or outdated. In truth, intentional dating is a luxury. My clients come to me because they value their time and their future. They want something real, and they’re willing to invest in finding it.
My divorce changed everything. I stopped outsourcing my happiness. I realised how many people feel stuck in relationships out of fear, not love. That awareness sharpened my mission—I became a mirror for my clients and, often, the catalyst for their change.
Healing after divorce wasn’t a straight line. I leaned into community and self-love. I gave myself permission to cry, to dance, to rest. I honoured every messy layer of healing, because that’s how real restoration happens.
Motherhood completely changed the way I approached dating. I stopped chasing sparks and started choosing alignment. My children became my compass. Anyone stepping into our world had to honour the sacredness of our space.
To the woman who thinks she’s missed her chance: you haven’t. Love doesn’t run on deadlines. Your heart isn’t expired. Your story is still unfolding—and you get to write it.
If I could go back and speak to the version of myself just beginning her healing journey, I’d say: You’re not broken—you’re becoming. Honour your pain. Trust the unfolding. There’s light coming you can’t even imagine yet.
Single motherhood taught me that true strength is quiet. It’s not about never falling—it’s about choosing to rise again while still wiping your tears. I show my children what resilience looks like by living it. They see my boundaries, my joy, my courage. They see that healing and ambition can exist side by side.
I wish more people understood that single mums in the dating world aren’t carrying “baggage”—we’re bringing depth. We date with clarity, intention, and wisdom. We know what love costs, and what it’s worth.
To stay grounded and connected to my femininity, I create space. I light candles. I move my body. I pray. I remind myself that femininity doesn’t disappear under pressure—it just needs room to breathe.
What I hope to leave behind—for my children, for the women who follow my work—is a legacy of radical love and unapologetic courage. I want my children to believe they can create any life they choose. And I want every woman I reach to remember: you are worthy. You are powerful. And it is never too late to begin again.
