Kindred Keri: Mystery in the Laundry Basket

I’m feeling quite unsettled and I’m not sure what to make of it. Recently, I came across a t-shirt in our laundry that I didn’t recognise. I must admit, I don’t usually do the washing, and I was away for a few days in April, so I initially brushed it off.

However, just last week I found another t-shirt—clearly a woman’s—that certainly doesn’t belong to me. I asked my husband about it, and he denied knowing anything about it. He insisted that whatever I might be thinking, it simply wasn’t true.

I’ve since asked close friends and my sisters whether the t-shirt could be theirs, but they’ve all said no.

Now I’m left with questions and a heavy heart. I don’t want to jump to conclusions, but I also can’t ignore what I’ve found. What do I do?

Kindred Keri says:

First of all, let me say how deeply I feel for you. That kind of quiet confusion, the whisper of doubt in a place that should feel safest—it can be a heavy thing to carry. You are not alone in this, and I hope you feel that, even now, as you read these words.

Let’s pause together here. You’ve found something that doesn’t quite fit—not just in the laundry basket, but in your sense of peace. And when our peace is unsettled, it’s natural to want answers. You’ve done the right things: you asked, you checked, you kept calm. But now you’re standing in that uncomfortable space between logic and intuition, between wanting to believe the best and needing to honour the little voice within.

The truth, darling, is that sometimes it’s not about the t-shirt at all—it’s about what it stirs inside us. Is this really about trust in your husband, or is it about something deeper that’s been waiting to be voiced? Have there been other moments, however small, that made your heart pause?

Now’s the time to have a heart-to-heart—not a confrontation, but a conversation rooted in vulnerability. Share how this has made you feel. Not just suspicious or confused, but unsettled, a little fragile perhaps. Tell him you’re not accusing, you’re just trying to understand and protect the sanctuary that is your home.

And while you seek answers externally, don’t forget to listen inwardly. If this situation is opening a door to deeper communication, greater clarity, or even healing, then let it. Don’t let fear silence your voice. You deserve to feel secure, seen, and safe in your own home.

If, after all is said, you still feel uncertain, there is no shame in seeking guidance—whether through a counsellor or a trusted confidante who knows both of you. Sometimes we all need someone to help hold the weight of what we’re carrying.

You’re not foolish, paranoid, or dramatic. You are simply human, and your feelings are valid. Trust that. Trust you.